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From: american woan
Category: Category 1
Date: 5/22/2004
Time: 2:19:29 PM
Remote Name: 209.178.130.109
How do i find out if the Pakistani man who says he loves me and wants to marry me is actually engaged already by an arranged set up? We are supposed to meet in a few months to get engaged, but I feel that he only wants me really sexually although he says I am the only woman he will ever marry. He tells me he is a virgin and will only be for one woman. Are there any signs that he is only telling me this for his sexual needs and is actually engaged to an arranged woman?
From: Nadia77@aol.com
Category: Category 1
Date: 4/22/2004
Time: 8:53:03 AM
Remote Name: 208.156.111.150
It's been a while since you're last update, could you give me an update on your situation.
From: 1323
Category: Category 1
Date: 4/15/2004
Time: 9:30:47 PM
Remote Name: 205.188.116.77
Hi everyone, I am doing a presentation in my Sociology class in a few weeks about cross-cultural marriages and I would love to present a very good story on this topic. if you could help me, I will appreciate it...Thank you E-mail it @ angelesm1@aol.com
From: Leon
Category: Category 1
Date: 4/14/2004
Time: 12:16:34 PM
Remote Name: 216.244.12.196
Any Comments:My daughter is having her first baby from a non- American French citizen with immigration problems. They plan to marry. He wants the baby to have dual citizenship at birth?? I don't trust him he has very little $ is very charming, but???? What should be done please advise,thanks Lee
From: An American citizan
Category: Category 1
Date: 4/14/2004
Time: 11:59:46 AM
Remote Name: 216.244.12.196
If mom is French can American baby have dual citizenship without consent of the babies American daddy. DOes the father have to agree to dual cictzenship ???? Lee leetrujillo@earthlink.net
From: John
Category: Category 1
Date: 4/3/2004
Time: 5:29:59 AM
Remote Name: 24.190.160.147
isthisstillavalidsite?
From:
Category: Category 1
Date: 3/20/2004
Time: 6:28:38 AM
Remote Name: 203.124.0.248
From:
Category: Category 1
Date: 3/19/2004
Time: 2:40:28 AM
Remote Name: 218.65.88.188
From: jessiejames83@hotmail.com
Category: Category 1
Date: 3/15/2004
Time: 7:24:39 PM
Remote Name: 68.248.252.245
Coz they know she marries for money rather than love. I have had many experiences with american girls they use you take your money and then leave you when you need their help. Back home girls support their husbands in Good and bad times and they have some character too..
From: Sabine
Category: Category 1
Date: 2/28/2004
Time: 11:01:30 PM
Remote Name: 4.72.92.4
Just wanted to say hello and what a nice work you've done on this website. I am French, my fiance is American. We are getting married in a few months and I cannot wait!
From: Nadia77@aol.com
Category: Category 1
Date: 2/16/2004
Time: 6:09:51 AM
Remote Name: 208.156.111.150
Jan, while I realize this post is old I will reply anyway. Even though your daughter may have married a Muslim man, the family will get their way. He will leave your daughter and have this arranged marriage. Afterall, their family honor is at stake because they have already committed their son and paid a dowry to her family. For all you know they are probably engaged to this woman while he is married to your daughter. This happened to me and the parents have much more control over their sons that you would ever imagine! Please respond at Nadia77@aol.com if you would like more detailed information.
From: Nadia77@aol.com
Category: Category 1
Date: 2/16/2004
Time: 6:05:14 AM
Remote Name: 208.156.111.150
I too, am a Christian married to a Muslim. Life has been very difficult adjusting to his culture let alone his religion. If you think you will raise non-Muslim children you are in for a rude awakening my friend. Many of my friends husbands have taken the children because it is against a Muslims religion that the children be raised anything but Muslim. Some kidnap their children because in Islam it is said the children are better off dead than being raised nonbelievers. If you get married by the Imam in the mosque you will have to sign a marriage contract stating that you will raise your children Muslim. Please, please e-mail me at Nadia77@aol.com to speak privately. You need to understand so much more than I could ever put here.
From: angela
Category: Category 1
Date: 12/16/2003
Time: 10:51:32 AM
Remote Name: 207.74.80.111
if you find any could you send them to me titled french weddings. I am having a french traditonal wedding. spearswomen16@hotmail.com
From: lizhol@hotmail.com
Category: Category 1
Date: 11/30/2003
Time: 11:36:41 PM
Remote Name: 130.184.14.153
I (an American) lived in France for eight months studying French at the University of Grenoble. After 5 months I met Jerome... we met by chance for 2 minutes on a tram then lost each other - left without any way to contact one another. As the tram pulled away, right away I thought... that could be the man I am supposed to marry and I may never see him again! ...I am very picky and this thought has never popped up right away, ever - and especially, after 2 minutes talking about skiing vs snowboarding, this was no logical basis for marriage. Then, over the following month, I had forgotten about him. But I had several consecutive dreams about the ocean, and a man I would love more passionately and completely for my entire life. It was so strong that I went to the ocean, in Italy. I ran into him in the train to Milan. We exchanged emails and he asked me to meet him in a week on the train back to France... We found each other going home, after some trouble, and were smitten. He asked for my phone number, what am I doing this weekend, next weekend, and we walked home together with our huge backpacks down the cobble streets at night... When I didn't hear from him for two weeks, and after sending a couple of text messages, I was confused and worried. Then I ran into him as he was walking by an outdoor cafe I was at - and he said he lost my number! excitedly opening his wallet to show me, and we planned to meet in a couple of days. We did meet, and it was great, but after that we only saw each other every month or so. He worked in Lyon, more than an hour away and was always doing video work on trains for his job, in other countries. I felt slighted and didn't understand him. He once wrote me a poem and asked me to read it to him, in French: Des yeux ouverts, Des yeux brillants, De tous les pais qu'elle a traverse (This is how I remember it, although my grammar is probably a bit off!) Then he asked how I felt when we met, the first time on the tram... I said I was afraid I'd never see him again. He said he felt the same. He asked what I thought of him, saying that people always want to know but no one asks. I said that being with him felt like being with myself... that I thought I could learn alot from him. He said that it is so rare to find a woman who travels the world on her own and is so brave... that it is something you never find, not many women can do that... it is so hard to find - and trailed off. From then on, I never understood what was going on. We hardly ever saw each other, then all of a sudden he would call as soon as he arrived in town. We would hang out but when his friends showed up at the bar, I felt inadequate (because of my French level), and would move away and talk to other people because I didn't want to put a kink in the conversation or feel like a puppy at his heels. I wonder if I gave him the wrong impression - if this made him think I wasn't interested. We left on uncertain terms, and I wrote him a letter from a Buddhist monastery in southwestern France. The morning before I left to go there, he had asked me to write him and told me his address 3 times. He said - if you forget, call me. You must write me while you are there! I did, and a beautiful letter... and never heard back. I came back to North America (Canada, to visit friends) about a month after this happened and wrote him an email 3 months after I left France. I never heard back. I was sad. I thought something had started and still had feelings and was still hurt and confused. Then, a few days ago I sent him another email... another 2 months after the first one. We hadn't communicated at all in 6 months total. I told him about my life and didn't expect to hear back from him. Then, no less than 8 hours after I had sent my message, I got this email: hi little liz! I am so happy to read about you. I tried to write you back last time but my *@!!?hotmail mail box fucked up so I lost all my messages and your adress as well. So now I've got it! so good. Lot of things happened since. I finished school in july, travelled then, made my little own world tour... I hitchiked in france went to australia then to morocco then to croatia then to hungary then to holland and belgium and then back to france! All these trips were different but all trips. Finally my boat project fucked up. And for now I am looking for another way to experience life... you know what I mean! (between us this means travel) Now my studies seems to be over, everything is possible! Both wonderfull and terrible: life. I thing is shure : I will experience! bisoux bisoux jeromeee ...I hadn't hear from him in so long... and now, I am not sure what to think of "little liz", "bisoux bisoux", and "jeromeee". Here in the US, these things would mean affection and a very close friendship or more, but in France I think it may mean something different. If anyone has any advice or can help me interpret this and all of what has happened, please email or reply! I would really appreciate any input, as I don't normally think of marriage two minutes after I meet a man. Usually I am very critical. I don't date easily. But we fit together unbelievably well and he is unlike any man I have ever met. I still believe in my dreams and my gut instincts, but it is still uncertain as to whether we will ever see each other again. I miss him but don't want to say too much. I have never felt this way and even after 6 months of no communication, I don't want to be with anyone but him. I would love to hear from people who have experience in this type of relationship, to have an idea of whether this sounds promising or not, or just to talk to someone who is in the same boat! We were never committed or physical, but always connected so strongly it was almost scary for both of us I think. He is very independent as am I... perhaps we were afraid of our strong attraction to one another and were worn out after our cultural misunderstandings. Far away and helplessly melted for a French man who is difficult to understand. *liz*
From: liz (lizhol@hotmail.com)
Category: Category 1
Date: 11/30/2003
Time: 11:23:50 PM
Remote Name: 130.184.14.153
I (an American) lived in France for eight months studying French at the University of Grenoble. After 5 months I met Jerome... we met by chance for 2 minutes on a tram then lost each other. I thought... that could be the man I am supposed to marry and I may never see him again! Then, I had several dreams about the ocean, and a man I would love for my entire life. It was so strong that I went to the ocean, in Italy. I ran into him in the train to Milan. We exchanged emails and he asked me to meet him in a week on the train back... we found each other, after some trouble, and were smitten. He asked for my phone number, what am I doing this weekend, next weekend, and we walked home together with our huge backpacks at night... When I didn't hear from him, after sending a couple of text messages, I was confused and worried. Then I ran into him as he was walking by an outdoor cafe I was at - and he said he lost his number, opening his wallet to show me, and we planned to meet in a couple of days. We did meet, and it was great, but after that we only saw each other every month or so. He worked in Lyon, more than an hour away and was always on trains for his job, in other countries. I felt slighted and didn't understand him. He once wrote me a poem and asked me to read it to him, in French: Des yeux ouverts, Des yeux brillants, De tous les pais qu'elle a traverse (This is how I remember it, although my grammar is probably a bit off!) Then he asked how I felt when we met, the first time on the tram... I said I was afraid I'd never see him again. He said he felt the same. He asked what I thought of him, saying that people always want to know but no one asks. I said that being with him felt like being with myself... that I thought I could learn alot from him. He said that it is so rare to find a woman who travels the world on her own and is so brave... that it is something you never find, not many women can do that... it is so hard to find - and trailed off. From then on, I never understood what was going on. We hardly ever saw each other, then all of a sudden he would call as soon as he arrived in town. We would hang out but when his friends showed up at the bar, I felt inadequate (because of my French level), and would move away and talk to other people because I didn't want to put a kink in the conversation or feel like a puppy at his heels. I wonder if I gave him the wrong impression - if this made him think I wasn't interested. We left on uncertain terms, and I wrote him a letter from a Buddhist monastery in southwestern France. The morning before I left to go there, he had asked me to write him and told me his address 3 times. He said - if you forget, call me. You must write me while you are there. I did, and a beautiful letter... and never heard back. I came back to North America (Canada, to visit friends) about a month after this happened and wrote him an email 3 months after I left France. I never heard back. I was sad. I thought something had started and still had feelings and was still hurt and confused. Then, a few days ago I sent him another email... another 2 months after the first one. We hadn't communicated at all in 6 months total. I told him about my life and didn't expect to hear back from him. Then, no less than 8 hours after I had sent my message, I got this email: hi little liz! I am so happy to read about you. I tried to write you back last time but my *@!!?hotmail mail box fucked up so I lost all my messages and your adress as well. So now I've got it! so good. Lot of things happened since. I finished school in july, travelled then, made my little own world tour... I hitchiked in france went to australia then to morocco then to croatia then to hungary then to holland and belgium and then back to france! All these trips were different but all trips. Finally my boat project fucked up. And for now I am looking for another way to experience life... you know what I mean! (between us this means travel) Now my studies seems to be over, everything is possible! Both wonderfull and terrible: life. I thing is shure : I will experience! bisoux bisoux jeromeee ...I hadn't hear from him in so long... and now, I am not sure what to think of "little liz", "bisoux bisoux", and "jeromeee". Here in the US, these things would mean affection and a very close friendship or more, but in France I think it may mean something different. If anyone has any advice or can help me interpret this and all of what has happened, please email or reply! I would really appreciate any input, as I don't normally think of marriage two minutes after I meet a man. Usually I am very critical. I don't date easily. But we fit together unbelievably well and he is unlike any man I have ever met. I still believe in my dreams and my gut instincts, but it is still uncertain as to whether we will ever see each other again. I miss him but don't want to say too much. I have never felt this way and even after 6 months of no communication, I don't want to be with anyone but him. I would love to hear from people who have experience in this type of relationship, to have an idea of whether this sounds promising or not, or just to talk to someone who is in the same boat! We were never committed or physical, but always connected so strongly it was almost scary for both of us I think. He is very independent as am I... perhaps we were afraid of our strong attraction to one another and were worn out after our cultural misunderstandings. Far away and helplessly melted for a French man who is difficult to understand. *liz*
From:
Category: Category 1
Date: 10/30/2003
Time: 11:25:19 AM
Remote Name: 207.35.188.13
I am Chinese, married a White Canadian. I found it very exotic and attractive. But the differences are so huge that we now are separated. I now miss everything Chinese. ... I pray to God day and night that He will restore our marriage for we have a son.... any advice? love, John
From:
Category: Category 1
Date: 10/30/2003
Time: 11:23:49 AM
Remote Name: 207.35.188.13
I am Chinese, married a White Canadian. I found it very exotic and attractive. But the differences are so huge that we now are separated. I now miss everything Chinese. ... I pray to God day and night that He will restore our marriage for we have a son.... any advice? love, John
From: Wanda.Caraballo@pfizer.com
Category: Category 1
Date: 10/20/2003
Time: 6:03:52 PM
Remote Name: 66.171.3.250
Hi, My situation is not exactly like yours but anyway, I do have a relationship with a lovely french guy. We met in March when I was loving in Paris for work. We were together until the end of June when I came back to the states. We have kept in touch since then and I went to visit him in September and spent one week with them. I am going back for Thanksgiving and the plan is that he will come for Christmas. I am a puertorrican who lives in NJ and he is from the south of France (Provence), although he is currently living in Paris due to work as well. I am very much in love with him and I think he is with me too. The truth is it is very difficult to be in a long distance relationship. None of us has been able to make a decision and for different reasons perhaps we cannot right now but honestly I would do anything to be with him. I really love him. Please tell me about your experience with the french culture/language/relationship. I don't speak french and you? Anyway, I hope I can hear from you. Au revoir!
From: queenbliz22@hotmail.com
Category: Category 1
Date: 10/16/2003
Time: 12:58:38 PM
Remote Name: 67.94.205.19
I am doing a project on French food but have no idea what French people eat! Can I get some help? Thanks! Liz
From: Emily the 7th Grader
Category: Category 1
Date: 9/21/2003
Time: 1:26:56 PM
Remote Name: 24.62.153.159
Hi i'm emily and i'm in 7th grade. My homework for tonight is to find different foods for breakfast, lunch, and dinner in France, that people there eat every day. I can't find anything on the internet and i came upon your question. It said that it was last reviewed somtime in July. I was wondering if you have found anything by now and if so to please send it to me at huladancer33@hotmail.com. Thankyou very much!!
From:
Category: Category 1
Date: 9/16/2003
Time: 2:02:52 AM
Remote Name: 210.8.232.3
From: American Woman & Moroccan Man
Category: Category 1
Date: 8/26/2003
Time: 3:32:08 PM
Remote Name: 208.156.111.3
I have found from my own personal experiences and others that even though the man may marry an American woman, it is only temporarily to meet the sexual needs of the man while an arranged marriage is being set up. This is especially true of Muslims I am sorry to say. If the parents are disapproving now, they'll eventually get their way even if you are married!! Consider the cost. Hope you are still checking this website.
From: Marie Braden Customer ID #8252
Category: Category 1
Date: 8/14/2003
Time: 1:35:12 PM
Remote Name: 66.141.136.84
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From: Ampbreia
Category: Category 1
Date: 7/23/2003
Time: 7:52:01 PM
Remote Name: 64.136.26.35
Been there, done that and sure hope you won't do what I did! I was obviously a lot younger and more naieve, though, myself. I was married to an Iranian Muslim. There are some important things you should know before marrying this guy: 1. Muslims are commanded to love Islam before their own family's and to reject (or kill,if in an Islamic nation) family members who are not Muslim. If you do not soon convert to Islam, he will be ostracized and you will be harrassed and called "Sidhe." Sidhe is a "Temporary wife," just a live-in, often considered a whore, really, not a wife (though he probably won't dare tell you this), since the Muslim community does not consider marriage to a non-Muslim valid in any legal sense. Sidhe is permitted to Muslim males but is very disapproved of. 2. The children of a Muslim are required by Islamic law to be raised by a Muslim. If you are not a Muslim or even if you are a Muslim but not born one, you will not be allowed to raise them. Trust me on this, the Muslim community & his family will actively ensure this even if it means kidnapping the children. This happens even from the States. In Malaysia, children are often targetted for conversion from the non-Muslims. Once a child converts, it is then taken away from its non-Muslim parents and put in a Muslim foster home. Muslims feel THAT strongly about it. If you marry him though, do it under the agreement that he leave you to your religion and not harrass for you for it. And DON'T have children as it would be a guaranteed loss for you! If you are curious to know where I am coming from on this, I have a testimony and many other articals on the subject posted at www.faithfreedom.com. But the testimony, my basic story in a nutshell, is at http://www.faithfreedom.org/forum/viewtopic.php?t=5815&highlight= I have also written a book about my experiences, "Lost in Foreign Passions," that is available at http://www.publishamerica.com I wrote it for the express purpose of warning fellow women against falling into the same nightmare I did. By the way, you would not like being Muslim. It does not appeal to femminism at all, though it often, misleadingly, purports to... using a great deal of propaganda.